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How To Let Go Of Things That Stop You From Living

· Leadership,Entrepreneur

As we live we go through various experiences; the good, the bad, and the confusing. Sometimes we have things and memories that are too good to let go of, and experiences that were so bad that we cannot forget them. We also have situations that are so confusing that we wonder if we should hold on to them in case they end up becoming some of our most valued and beautiful experiences, and some that we can tell are not good enough for us but we are holding on with the hope that they will change. Above all, we have personal issues like pride, false beliefs, addiction, low self-esteem, and fear which are keeping us from reaching our full potential. Be it in our families, the workplace, our social places, or relationships, we do encounter these, and sometimes deciding what to do may be hard. 

But, why is it important to let go? And, how do you let go? The reason we need to let go of things is that they are hurting us, hindering progress, or keeping us from identifying better opportunities among other things. Letting go of things sets us free from whatever we are holding on to while opening space for new and better things. We let go so that we can live our lives to the fullest. To be able to let go, we need to be aware of what holding on is costing us. In other words, we need to be dreaming of a better life and also be determined to get it. We should be willing to get rid of whatever is blocking our view or is taking up space. We also need to be able to admit when our attempts are not yielding the expected results and be flexible enough to consider doing things differently. 

Here is how you can let go and start living; 

Identify self-limiting beliefs and fears – some beliefs and fears can hinder progress and keep you from letting go. Such fears and beliefs include the fear of being alone, the fear of starting afresh (relationships, job hunting, and getting used to being around new people), and more. Fears and self-limiting beliefs can be unlearned by feeding your mind the right things, practicing self-affirmation (which encourages you to think positively about important things), and setting your mind on improving your life, among other things. Confront your fears. 

Choose to live – understand that although you cannot control everything, how you react to certain things is your choice. For example, you cannot control how people treat you but whether you let that hold you back and make you feel worthless is your choice. Choose to let some things and people be while you move forward. 

Self-discovery – know who you are, what you want, what makes you happy, and what is important to you. This helps you identify time wasters and things that are not going the way you would prefer to have them. Scrap off what is pulling you back and replace it with something that helps you grow. 

Live in the present – focus on the present and how you can improve it. Forget what happened in the past. It does not bring value and it can take away your happiness and affect your mental health. You cannot change the past but you can use the lessons from it to build your future and improve the present. Once you realize the value of the present and its opportunities, you will learn to let go of the past. 

Assess the benefits of what you are holding on to – you need to be aware of the value of things that make a difference in your life. It could be a job, a business, or relationships. Identify the benefits and losses that you are making from it. If there are more losses even after having given it a fair chance, do not settle for less than you deserve. Let go and open space for new opportunities. 

Talk to someone or look for help – sometimes letting go is hard because we lack the support that we need to make it through especially when dealing with relationships, friendship, and work stress. Talking to someone can help you cope and find solutions to issues that may arise from letting go. Spend time out with others and keep yourself busy. 

Do not give in to negativity – others may discourage you and make you feel like you are making a bad choice. While it is good to listen to and learn from others, sometimes you are the only person who understands what you are going through and why you need to make some changes. Carefully consider the possible results of whatever decision you make from the advice others are giving you. 

Vow to always go forward – you owe yourself that much. Make sure every step you take counts and you never stay in the same unfavorable conditions for too long or go backward. Whatever happens, keep moving forward. Do not wait for what is not working, focus on the opportunities presented and your goals and what is working will catch you along the way. Life is bigger than that one business, job, or relationship that did not work the way you expected. 

Peace, Love & Prosperity! 

Mario Sousa

Heart-Centered Leadership

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