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Do Not Link Your Happiness To What Happened Or What Is Yet To Happen

· Leadership,Entrepreneur

A lot of us go through life feeling miserable. We always feel like we are missing out on something. All we are doing is going through the motions as we wait for some big event to happen so we can be happy.

The media is to blame as it links happiness in these modern times to materialistic things. It has become common for children to be on anti-depressants while their parents rely on their work and social status to provide that euphoric high. We have reduced happiness to select moments in history and possible future events. Without them, people feel they have nothing to be happy about.

Ask many young people today their version of happiness. They will tell you about climbing the corporate ladder or earning more money or driving fancier cars and living in bigger houses. This is how we have many people stuck in jobs they do not enjoy. Most of us are slaving away for the opportunity to get promotions and big bonuses at the end of the year while we remain unfulfilled and miserable on the inside.

We should not put happiness off until tomorrow.

Society has put conditions to happiness that most cannot meet. So we think if we ride along, somewhere we will encounter happiness in the form of money, cars, or mansions. For some, happiness will come once they can afford exotic trips. For others, it will come when they meet the elusive one and start a family.

We are not happy because we link our happiness to people and things that may come. These offer temporary thrills because people can be here today and gone tomorrow, and the same goes for opportunities and possessions. You could have the job of your dreams today and lose it tomorrow. The same goes for money and property. True happiness should not come from what we have, lest it is taken away. It should come from within, starting with accepting ourselves as the true sources of any joy we can have.

Do not be hung up on the past.

True happiness is not about what happened in the past. Not that you should discount how the past has influenced your present. Past successes are good because they motivate you towards future success. Remembering past battles you have encountered and conquered will give you joy and confidence that you can handle anything that comes your way. The challenge comes when you become so stuck in yesterday’s success that you cannot prepare for impending setbacks and failures, leaving you miserable when the inevitable happens.

Remember moments that brought you happiness in the past with fondness, but be deliberate about creating happy moments in the present. If there are memories of people who made you happy in the past and they are no longer in the picture for any reason, make brief trips down memory lane but seek ways to foster happiness today. Do not tie your happiness to those moments only.

What is happiness?

‘Happiness is an inside job. Do not assign anyone or anything else that much power over your life.’ Mandy Hale.

Happiness is a state of mind. It has little to do with people and events and more to do with your internal environment. Since it is something that happens within an individual, you can control how you respond to external factors that will try to dampen your happiness.

Make deliberate choices to be happy outside of specific events. You should not limit your happiness to times when you have your friends and family or spouse around you. Though it is good to keep them company and have strong relationships, you do not need other people to be happy.

To have true happiness independent of your past or probable future, you need to:

Enjoy every moment now, even when you are by yourself.

Cheerful people thrive regardless of who is around. They are so comfortable on their own that they can enjoy every moment, even when no one else is around.

Do not postpone your joy today for what might happen. Live in the present and enjoy every moment as it comes.

Accept yourself, flaws, and all.

If you have ever been around a person with a jovial disposition, you know that they are confident in themselves, regardless of their flaws. To be happy, accept that you are the best version of yourself. No one else is like you, and that makes you unique. Everything you feel you want to change about your look, you can own and make work for you. There are many people who are taking issues such as deformities and size and owning them so much that they are ambassadors for some of the biggest brands. Plus-sized models are now so popular because of people who chose to be happy regardless of people’s opinions about their weight. It is all about accepting yourself as you are.

Do not compare yourself to anyone else. It robs you of your happiness. You will spend all your time chasing after the unrealistic image of perfection that social media portrays. Be you and you will be happy as you are.

Practice daily gratitude.

A merry soul is one that is appreciative of all the surrounding good. Cheerful people are content with whom they are and what they have. They express gratitude for the good deeds that others do for them. When your focus is on being grateful, you do not have time to complain. When you do not have time to complain, you enjoy life more.

It is possible to enjoy life daily if you take the time to be present in the now, regardless of what company you keep or what you have. Adopt enjoyable daily rituals that keep your spirits up. Your happiness is your responsibility. Let nothing rob you of it!

Peace, Love & Prosperity!

Mario Sousa

Heart-Centered Leadership

My team and I are on a mission to lead other like-minded, heart-centered business leaders that are ready to make a bigger impact in their personal lives, their communities and around the world. Please review the information below and reach out to me personally with any questions you might have. The future looks extremely bright, if you see what I see, let's work together.

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